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Morningstar
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ways to avoid ex boyfriend

Once I broke up, but my ex-boyfriend did not stop talking to me, texting me, and even he was following me. He said that he want to get back together, even though we were done. In those moments of my life I had to learn how to avoid people and especially ex - boyfriend. Now i have new relations. Happy one but from time to time that person is still bothering us with his attempts to get back everything that we had. So avoiding that I had on him did not work as i think. Did you have such situations in your life? What did you do and did that help you?

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Samuel
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Joined: 09/28/2016 - 09:10
ways to avoid ex boyfriend

Your ex boyfriend must be a maniac from your words. But I am sure that he will never disturb you in the future, if you explain him properly your position, and your point of view about him. If he is mentally healthy person, he well understand you. If no, then ask your boyfriend to do the same.

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YourHubby
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ways to avoid ex boyfriend

Pretty weird situation. I think you can try to set and communicate your own boundaries. Sometimes, an ex’s behavior might not rise to the level of stalking. Perhaps he just keeps asking to be friends or to get back together. Or perhaps he’s telling you that it’s normal for exes to spend a certain amount of time together. You get to set your own boundaries with an ex, even if you feel guilty about ending the relationship.
Decide on what boundaries make you feel most able to enjoy your own life. Remember that you don’t owe your ex your time and attention. Naming your own boundaries, to yourself and your friends, is the first step.

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HappyDaddy
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ways to avoid ex boyfriend

There are few ways which can help you actually. Don't be approachable. If you must go out, you can give off certain attitudes and social cues which will deter people from approaching you.Don't make eye contact. It is said that the eyes are the windows to the soul. Eye contact can be a social cue that you want to interact with someone: it initiates connection and establishes mutual awareness. Look at your phone, at a book, at the world around you, or at your feet--just not into anyone's eyes!Wear headphones or earbuds. Listen to music, listen to podcasts, or just wear headphones to deter people. Whether you're riding the train, walking down a street, or sitting in a park, people may be more hesitant to approach you if you have headphones in.Read. Stick your nose into a book, a newspaper, a Kindle or an iPad. Absorb yourself in what you're reading, and people may be hesitant to disturb you.

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Morningstar
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Call a police on that stupid ass-tell them he's stalking you wherever you go. :) It can be a true hell-believe me,I know,been there and done that.In my case,it was a poor one still in love with me-but who cares,I already wasn't. :cheer: Furthemore,it all happened cause of him-our break-up.He betrayed me-he slept with our mutual friend.What would you do after sh*t like that?So,I've showed him a wayout of my apartment.Then he started to pull all that stuff about forgiveness and such-but sorry,dude,that just ain't me.So,I had to beat him up real hard for him to leave me alone.Maybe,you just should do the same? ;)

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Sean0108
Last seen: 1 year 3 months ago
Joined: 03/15/2017 - 08:05
Hi there! yeah, ex-boyfriend

Hi there! yeah, ex-boyfriend can be a real problem i had the bad experience of such a person in my life. Thanks God he is in the past and now  i am in the normal relations. My ex was following me for several months ahead. I thought that this terrible times would never finish. I tried to speak to him normaly, my new partner did the same, but nothing worked. The last drop was when he phoned me and said he would kill me and then himself. And I went to the police. That was  the only way to stop all this!!

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JasperJ
Last seen: 1 year 2 months ago
Joined: 03/03/2017 - 07:50
ways to avoid ex boyfriend

Well I have the only one thing for you to tell - IF you have him next to you all the time, so than you are the one who letting him to do all of these things, you are the one who decided that it is better to have him near... maybe subconsciously you are willing to get him really back??? that is the reason why you are treating him in the way, which makes him think that you are interested in the continuation of your mutual story... maybe, that is the right answer for your personal situation?! I guess it may be so...on the other hand, you ca really get rid of him - just show that you are NOT interested at all, but that has to be the sincere feeling...understand, please. 

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Valeos
Last seen: 6 months 2 weeks ago
Joined: 11/23/2017 - 11:52
ways to avoid ex boyfriend

Greetings. Yes, in life, sometimes such incomprehensible individuals meet. I also had a situation where we had already broken up with the guy, but he continued to insist on the resumption of relations. It bothered me, and there is only one solution, at least for me. I explain the whole situation to this person again, why we broke up and why we can not be together, and usually it works. But if not, then of course I can scare him, but usually it did not reach this point. You can also go to the police)

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Dustin
Last seen: 5 months 3 weeks ago
Joined: 01/16/2018 - 18:09
ways to avoid ex boyfriend

Well, I can tell you that he does it because he doesn't believe that everything is over. First of all, do not unswer him. Keep any contact short and sweet. If you must talk to your ex, keep the communication brief but friendly. Never flirt, however tempting it may seem. If you start to repeat old arguments or bad patterns, end the conversation immediately: say, “I’m sorry, this conversation isn’t going well. I need to end it. Keep in contact with mutual friends, but make your boundaries clear. Don’t keep socializing with your ex just because you have mutual friends. Recognize signs of stalking and abuse. Stalking is defined as a pattern of unwanted attention or behavior directed at you that would make a reasonable person fearful. For example, it is stalking to send repeated, intrusive, scary calls, messages, or gifts. A stalker may follow or wait for you in places where she knows she’ll find you. Or, he may make threats to harm you or your friends or family. But I think that the best way out is to find a new boyfriend.

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IamJack
Last seen: 5 months 2 days ago
Joined: 01/21/2018 - 21:07
I think the best way to stop

I think the best way to stop all this is to have a frank talk with that guy. Of course, he shouldn't do this. Ex-boyfriends are ex-boyfriends, so they have to stay in the past. If I were an original poster, I would certainly start with a frank talk. If he continues to chase me, I think it will be ok to ask the police to help. Remeber, your ex-boyfriend doesn't have the right to intrude ointo your life, so you should stop this as soon as possible!!!

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Alister
Last seen: 3 months 3 weeks ago
Joined: 03/15/2018 - 06:54
When we go on a date with a

When we go on a date with a man from our past, we subconsciously achieve this goal - to show oneself from the very best side and make him regret about the break. Even if we already have another  or we are long and hopelessly married - we are still eager for this meeting, without thinking that we can again be trapped. Most likely, the former  does not give a damn about us, and he pursues some other goals. For example, he has sperm-toxicosis, and there is nobody at hand, why not call that naive girl who once looked at him with her mouth open with admiration? Or he just wants to showcase his new car. Or is his banal curiosity roused - how is his former passion, is not he fattened, not fattened after two births?

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