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Morningstar
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wanna detach?

When a situation becomes too much for you to handle, you might need to detach from it emotionally. Emotional detachment is not recommended as a means of running away from your problems or weathering abuse. It should not be used as a weapon against others or as a substitute for communication. However, if you are going through a tough moment within a relationship, temporary detachment can help you calm down and put your issues into perspective. Similarly, detaching during a confrontation can help you keep your cool. Lastly, if you have ended a partnership, you will need to detach gradually and for good. Detach is my favourite way of behaving when I am not agree with something. It happens naturaly but still i am ok with it. What about you guys?

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Samuel
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wanna detach?

In my opinion, emotional and moral detachment is not the best solution, when you don't agree with somebody, or with something in your everyday life. When you try to detach from something, then you try to hide yourself, or something that you want to say, but can't because of outside impact on you.

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YourHubby
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wanna detach?

Well if you are stressed about any situation..Recognize moments that can easily escalate. If you notice you are constantly getting in fights in a certain mood or when certain things are said, detach before you get angry. To do this, recognize the triggers and prepare for moments in which they may appear. Go back over past confrontations and isolate the things that really made you angry, or really made the other person angry.You might notice that your partner always picks a fight when he is stressed about work. On stressful workdays, you can prepare to detach ahead of time by reminding yourself that she or he may be in a bad mood later.

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HappyDaddy
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wanna detach?

If you are trying to detach from anything - check in on your boundaries. Boundaries are the restrictions you set to protect yourself. You have emotional, mental, physical, and sexual boundaries. They can be learned from parents as you grow up, or you can acquire them by hanging around people who have their own set of healthy boundaries. If you are having trouble managing your time, habits, or your emotions, you may have poor boundaries.If you feel overwhelmed by the feelings of others, or feel that your self-image comes entirely from other people, you need to attend to your boundaries.If you often say "yes" to things you don't want to do, set boundaries.Pay attention to your senses. Do you feel something is wrong? Do you have an unpleasant sense in your stomach or chest? This may indicate that a boundary wants to be asserted.

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Morningstar
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wanna detach?

Detachment is what we all need from time to time,no matter what's the issue.Either it's too much workat the office or some problems at house-you just have to do it,cause if you won't,it might just tear you apart some day.Just like a computer needs a restart-the same way we need to let our brains chill for a minute and do something else.And you have to stop thinking about no matter what is your issue at all-in order to get a full effect of detachment,you know? ;) Go see a striptease or something,go for a walk,listen to some good music-every way is good,so choose yours. ;)

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Valeos
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Joined: 11/23/2017 - 11:52
wanna detach?

Hello everybody. I do not know how you are, but I'm used to solving problems in my life, and not to run away from them or be detached from them. Because it will always be easier than solving the current life situation. As for me, I am not afraid of difficulties, and I am used to overcoming them no matter what. This will make me stronger and no longer vulnerable. You can stand on the sidelines, and most certainly do, but not me) So parents raised me plus I worked on my personality)))

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Dustin
Last seen: 5 months 3 weeks ago
Joined: 01/16/2018 - 18:09
wanna detach?

When you know what you want, or don't want, act. Set boundaries for yourself: a daily schedule, a refusal to accept insults. Set boundaries with others: space from arguments, a refusal to give in to pressure, a refusal to let others put their emotions on you. Say "no" when asked to do something you don't want to do. Choose with whom you discuss your life. If you have a parent, friend, or partner who is controlling, don't give them fodder by sharing information with them. Say you will only discuss a topic if you are given no advice. Detach to communicate your intentions. When you need to establish a boundary with someone, you need to be able to communicate without worrying overmuch about their reaction. This is where emotional detachment comes in. Before you communicate, remind yourself that you are not responsible for how they feel. You have a right to set boundaries.

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IamJack
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Joined: 01/21/2018 - 21:07
I think all depends on the

I think all depends on the situation you're in. For instance, in some situations it's quite important to detach, especially when someone is going to manipulate with your feelings. You just show this person that his actions doesn't hurt you or make you disturbed and he stops this. However, there are some situations where detachment can be the worst thing you can do. For instance, you need to show your beloved that you're trully intrerested in him. If you treat him careless, it may spoilt everything. I think we need all to think twice and only then detach or not detach....

P.S. I used to date a guy who always tried to detach from problems. I think this was the main reason why I decided to stop any relationships with him!

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Alister
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Joined: 03/15/2018 - 06:54
Without patience and

Without patience and accepting all the shortcomings of the second half - marriage can turn into a war on the basis of mutual reproaches and not the desire to love a partner for who he is. Well, what a marriage after that.

It is a great happiness to realize that there is someone near you who you completely trust, you can tell everyone about yourself, and in return you will be understood and supported. Trust is one of the key factors in a happy marriage.

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Albert
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Joined: 04/16/2018 - 07:27
You know all the

You know all the circumstances of the situation, and you know what resources you have, so now you can start looking for the necessary information. Learn more about the problem you are facing. Talk to the people who went through the same thing. The more information, examples of other people and options for getting out of the situation you have, the easier it will be for you to make your decisions. It will also remind you that you are not alone.
On the Internet you can find a lot of information on any problems. Just use the search engine.
For example, you have problems at work. You are scheduled to meet with management, and you are afraid that your performance indicators were below average. Look for criteria for assessing the quality of employees in the Internet. You will learn everything about this process and you will be able to understand how the others coped with it. You will also be able to find out what you should do to stay in your position, if something in the assessment of your work is unsatisfactory.

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Brian
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Joined: 04/16/2018 - 07:31
You can change yourself and

You can change yourself and your behavior: review your requirements for the gadget, ask the partner to show concern or learn to do what the boss requires.
You can change the situation: create yourself a gadget that perfectly matches your criteria, talk with your partner about your feelings, or make your boss fired.
You can get out of the situation: decide not to buy a gadget at all, part with a partner or quit.You can change your attitude to the situation: read the reviews on the forums and assess how much you really need such a gadget; talk with a psychologist and find out how you can take care of yourself; turning to the philosophy of Buddhism, to reconcile with the character of the boss and not to take his demands to heart.

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