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Johnny
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Guys, i do need your advice! Me and my boyfriend we both want to have a baby very much and we are preparing to be fathers in near future (when the Adoption center will find a child for us). That is why i do want to know as much about how to grow childen as it is possible. May be you know some good books that will help me to learn more about kids' behaviour and how to become a good parent.

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John
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I can’t advise you some particular books because I am not a father and know probably nothing that should know any normal parent. I don’t have children but I am going to have them in the future. I wanted to say that everything that is written in the books is of course useful but it is not enough. Everything comes with practice you know.

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John
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Andone more!!!Don't be afraid!!! one day everything happens for the first time! B) B) B) ;) ;) ;) ;)

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Mario
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Think John is completely right. You never know what is waiting on you when you decide to have children one day. You can’t be prepared for everything that can be useful in raising a child. Books are good. But theory is not what you need.

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HenryManson
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I am happy for you to decide to adopt a child. I don't have children now and I think I'm not ready to become a father. And I agree with guys. You can't find enough information in books to raise a child. It is very difficult. You can't prepare for it beforehand. You will be able to become the best parent with the lapse of time. But if you have difficulty in any situation you may always use Internet for help. Don't be afraid. I wish you good luck ;)
May I ask you a question? Tell me please, what age do you want your baby to be: a newborn baby or maybe a bit older?

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Taylor
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There are many different books about childcare. You can search them in the Internet, go to the bookshop or to the public library. They may be helpful for you. But books are books and they are not always used in practice, they just give some basic knowledge for people who never dealt with children before. You will also need medical books - about treating the most common child ilnesses and recognising their symptoms, because the small child is not able to talk and whether something. You need to figure it out by yourself and to know what to do with it.

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Garold
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First of all I agree that books are good and helpful, but the experience of real people who already succeed in parenting is much more valuable for you now. It can be other gay fathers (if there are no same-gender families with children in your surrounding, you can always find them through the Internet , in part here on the forum) or even your and your partner's parents. By the way, be ready that the grandparents of your child will interfere in the process of upbringing anyway, whether you ask them about it or not. It depends on you whether to follow what they say or not, but they will find what to say, probably))))))))))

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PJE
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So, you have chosen adoption as an option. That's great, my congratulations! It means that it will be one less orphan in the world and one more happy full family. Adoption centers usually offer such kind of service as courses for potential adopters. You and your partner should attend these courses if you are new to this and if you want to know the details. Anyway, courses for potential parents are rather popular now and even if that ones which are provided by an adoption center are not good, you are always free to find something else . Good luck.

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Jeremy
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A child of what age are you planning to adopt? Sorry if you consider it a personal question and don't want to answer it, but it is important. For example, if you decide to adopt a newborn baby, you will have to choose the proper nutrition for the baby because there is no ability for breastfeeding and as for synthetic nutrition you know nothing about t and you need to learn the trademarks and the ingredients of these synthetic mixtures for nutrition - your child will have to eat something. The same thing is about pampers, clothes, toys and other things your child will need.

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JohnB
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A newborn child is not only nutrition and pampers. A newborn child is 24/7 attention. And if you both working, then there is a problem for you to solve. One of you should either leave the job or find some other abilities like freelance work or flexible schedule. If you are unable to do it, you should find an alternative option. For example, apply the service of nanny or ask your or your partner's parents to move to you (or move to them) for them to help you with the child for the very beginning. So, you need to decide everything before a child appears. Good luck.

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Richard
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But don't think that if you adopt an older child there will be less problems. First of all, it will be necessary to find a common language with a child. Yes, a common language is important even if a child is 3 years old. You will need to deserve your child's trust and love, you will need to make your child feel comfortable with you. It takes time, especially if a child remembers something from the previous life (not necessarily biological parents. Life in the orphanage is also a memory which never disappears and you will need a lot of love to bring a child to a normal life).

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