When you were together and saw each other every day, you might not notice their spending, but now in order to meet with your chosen one, you need to spend money on travel (flight), and in some cases accommodation. People who are far away from each other, a few meetings a year to maintain relationships can live in a decent amount of money. Add to this the long-distance phone bills, various parcels, gifts, and as a result you can calculate that you are too costly to such relationship. I think you already receive nachniaesh stage in your relationship, when each of you trying to find at least some reason to stop these long-distance relationship.
Depending on the type of personality and approaches of both sides to the question of maintaining a relationship at a distance can be time consuming, however, the "return on investment" may be small. Frequent e-mail messages, phone calls and sent postcards are time-consuming and takes a lot of strength, however, share daily news with one another is not as important as the need to feel the proximity of the person. The more time away from each other you spend, the more the object of your affection may seem somewhat abstract and not so real. Emails, can not be compared with finding the next person even daily filling your mailbox, which help hold you there, and next to which the new happy memories are formed in you.
Distance can give serious crack your relationship, and all conservation efforts they may appear as an attempt to impose a plaster on the flooding in the blood from an artery. In the end, a growing sense of loneliness can make the wound is too serious and can not be "treated", then comes the death of relations. If your plans do not include the union in the near future with your spouse, the benefit of such a relationship would be minimal, and you will feel very uncomfortable. I also think that now you have already started to have a time when each of us is simply tired of the long-distance relationship. Each of us needs the warmth and care every day, as close as possible.
You are doing everything you can to support the work of your relationship from a distance, but still it seems that there are some glitches. You write a letter, call up, from time to time meet (as soon as possible to get out). So why things do not work as we would like? Sometimes, if the relationship is transformed into a stage "at a distance", they can be initially programmed to fail. This can be (at least in the discourse of one of a pair) safe way to start a new life without the momentary loss of security and stability in his previous life. And the problems that you started to get now is just the beginning of your end.
In addition to a sense of security (time), which can provide a long-distance relationship, some people just do not like to be in a state of emotional devastation that certainly brings a tear. These are people who prefer to avoid confrontation at all costs with your partner, as a rule, make a series of endless steps that could lead to the collapse, or they are waiting for their partner will take the initiative to break off their relationship finally understand all the allusions. While on the phone a break - it is something abnormal in the usual ways, it is quite acceptable for a relationship at a distance, when there is no other choice.
What you and your partner expect from a relationship at a distance plays a critical role in the success of such a union. "The relationship at a distance" for different people can mean different things. For one, it can be "painful tragedy", while for the other partner it may mean "one year vacation." If couples are not one and the same expectations, then the "division" distance can serve the sentence for such a relationship. One partner may consider the distance as a test of the strength of the relationship, and it will be waiting for the moment of the early reunification, in any case, I think that your partner does not have the right to control you so much. And you have to solve this situation is very tough.
No one likes to be thrown, and this feeling is particularly strong when one partner leaves from its second half. Weeks and months before departure will probably be painted upcoming separation. As a result, anxiety and even anger can begin to manage the pair before departure. Some people react to parting calmer than others. For those people, who as a child lived through something like this, feelings overwhelming them can be comprehensive, as they face the fact that their romantic partners have to be away for a really long time. I think that your partner is just tired of feeling lonely because of the distance between you.
Of course, the separation is almost always leads to an increased sense of anxiety and unhappiness, but often those feelings and relationships are restored, even at a distance. On the other hand, these feelings can also contribute to drastic deterioration of relations which are currently measured in kilometers, rather than in the common dream. Many long-distance relationship is a result of the fact that people can not change the circumstances that contribute to the fact that they are forced to live in different cities or regions. Then why do you continue to torment your feelings? Why do you continue to hear these criticisms and jealousy of your partner at a distance? I think you have to finish it all.
Individual vital not adapted to a long period of time is in a distance relationship. Such couples often do not notice the changes that lead to the fact that they are starting to become emotionally distant. Interests, values, friends lead to the fact that they slowly and imperceptibly drifting apart. Or, depending on the individual's personality, these changes can happen quickly and visibly. And I think all the negative situations that have come between you and your partner, it is a sign that the distance completely kills your relationship. I am sure everything could be for the better without distance. It is better to find someone who can be with you.
Not all relationships begin to last forever, so the distance can only be one of the reasons that no longer exist such unions. Always there is a possibility that the distance was the only catalyst for something inevitable. Some relationships are not workable in itself, so attempts to keep them at bay once again show their doom. So I think that you should not get upset about things like that. Just you and your partner, perhaps tired from a long time without each other. In addition, it is possible zeal for your partner as a defense mechanism. I think the distance can bring to mind both of you. Therefore, you have to decide something.
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