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Michael
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Learn to compromise

I'll just tell you what I know about it. But you should also include your brains. Sometimes the best option comes to us unexpectedly. When you get two people merging and sharing their lives, communication isn't the only necessary skill to navigate all that and stay happy together...compromise is a big part of it too. Unhealthy compromise feels a lot like a subtraction, like you're the only one giving up things and getting nothing or not much back. If this one-sided relationship continues, the lack of balance breeds resentment and anger and in the end the relationship won't survive - happily, or at all.

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Moro
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Joined: 09/02/2016 - 08:18
Learn to compromise

How long you were trying to look for information about it? Everything is much easier than we usually think. Both of you need to give up something, not just one of you. Before you ask for your partner to give up something, be prepared to offer something to the table yourself. That shows balance, a sense of fairness and a willing to compromise yourself - not just ask for compromise. Engage in positive compromise. While sometimes compromise means one person has to give something up, or extend oneself for the greater good of the relationship, try to also compromise in a positive way, rather than always sacrificing.

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Henk
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Learn to compromise

It is better to calm down, listen to my thoughts about it and find something that can help you. Negotiate up for something rather than subtract. Instead of saying you'll stop doing x or your partner can achieve y, both you of brainstorm ways that you can each achieve y while also gaining another benefit for you both. For example, if your partner doesn't like to go out with any of your friends, instead of saying you'll never go out with them as a couple, try reaching a compromise like going out with his friends and your so you can socialise all together and no one misses out. Avoid talking about compromise when you're angry.

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Kris
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Learn to compromise

Try to think a little better about the world and everything that you meet on your way. Then you will not have the need to find answers to questions or advice on the forum. Hold discussions about compromises only when you're both calm and feeling open towards each other. Otherwise take a break. If your emotions are shutting you down from thinking positively, or warmly towards one another, it's no grounds for compromise. Someone is very likely to feel negatively about the situation or their partner, and compromise with resentment built into it is unhealthy in both the short and long term.

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Dasty
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Learn to compromise

We were created to enjoy our life and everything that happens to us in this world. So, do not think too much and seriously, when you can not find the answers. Make your own priority list. Know what your non-negotiables are before you start talking, and know what things you're willing to be most flexible on. Likewise, listen to how important certain things are to your partner. Never assume - people change over time and surprise us all. Accept help. Learning to compromise takes practise, and learning to do it without feeling like you are sacrificing important parts of yourself is important as an individual, and to establish mutual respect in your relationship.

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Bimbo
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Learn to compromise

I always like to share my opinions and thoughts. Especially when I can help someone with this. If you're having difficulty communicating what you need and feeling true balance in your relationship, reach out to a trusted third party or a counsellor for advice. Once you get the hang of compromise in your relationship, and you feel equally appreciated and valued for your shared interests and your individual pursuits and priorities, the word compromise won't feel negative or scary at all, but rather a vital ingredient to your happy union. If you're grumbling over getting stuck doing the dishes again, your relationship may need a fairness checkup.

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Bimbo
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Learn to compromise

Share experiences - means to help each other. This is what we can do for each other here. Couples often hold different beliefs about what's fair, and when we feel we're being wronged, resentment builds up. But fairness isn't an accounting system; rather, it's a flexible balance of give-and-take that you agree upon in the context of your relationship. Rethink your expectations. Think about your ideal balance — when it comes to chores, finances, sex, any potential area of conflict — and discuss those expectations with your partner. Keep in mind that you may not see eye-to-eye on what you consider fair, so be open to compromise.

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Bimbo
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Learn to compromise

I hope that my opinion will help you. In addition, people who might also be reading this topic - will get very useful information. Once you let go of the notion that your definition of fairness is the only one that counts, you'll be better able to come up with a new set of values that work for both of you. Tell him what you need. Instead of bemoaning the fact that he never helps get the children out the door, try, "I know we're both rushed in the morning, but I need your help. Do you think you could pack their lunches while I get the kids dressed?" Your needs will more likely get met with honey than vinegar.

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Bimbo
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Learn to compromise

You should be confident in your abilities and capabilities, then you will always be able to find what you need. In addition, it is convenient to do with the internet today, ha ha. Always feeling like the doormat when it comes to making decisions with your spouse? Or perhaps it's you who always calls the shots and your spouse meekly obliges, to the point where you feel they no longer contribute enthusiastically to the relationship. Either way, compromise between spouses is a key skill essential to a lifetime of cooperation, ever-growing love and continued respect for one another.

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Chaki
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Learn to compromise

Try to find more about it on your own. Because when someone tells you his opinion and give advice - he interferes in your destiny. Don't assume anything. It doesn't matter how long you have been together, there will always be things you don't know about one another. More than this, all of us grow and change over time. What may have been your spouse's favourite way of doing something 5 years ago may now have become a repetitive chore. Don't assume that things are static and always ideal. Always leave room to grow and change and the same will be done for you. So...

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