Patrick of course you can ask me questions! If I can help you somehow just say and I will!!! To tell the truth I don’t know to end why I wanted to have daughter and not son. She is so cuty and nice! She looks like me, she has the same blue eyes and long lashes like her father (me). I like to take care of the baby girl…more than baby boy…don’t know why! I love to buy her new dresses (although she is too small and in reality doesn’t need them and doesn’t understand she wears beautiful dress or some pants…) Ben I was talking not only about the public opinion. My statement included everybody. I decided not to tell anybody. I just did what I wanted because I knew that everybody around will say that it is not right! Single gay dad! They haven’t time to think about it and they just saw the results!!! They love my little star.
Ramon, maybe you did right, but i would not be ready for it, anyway. my parents are so obsessive, that it is impossible to hide something from them, I think that they would torture me in order to find what I want to hide, haha) But guys, even if they were against it, i would do it too! Ramon, so you do shopping alone? Does your friends help you sometimes?How often do you see them now?
Ramon - it is ok that you do have such a gender preference. Though usually men prefer to have boys - there are always people with other opinion) As for me - I always wanted to have the son, i will be honest. But now I am really glad that we did not know about the possibility of predefining the gender - because I do like our daughter Susan more than everything in my life) It does not matter for you eventually what is the gender of the child. By the way, Ramon - whom did you name your daughter after? Usually people do give names that do mean something to them.. As for me - Susan is the name of the mother of my husband) She was crying , when she figured out we named the daughter after her)
Ben - it is good that you do admit that you did have the gender preference - and it is twice better, that you did feel it on your own experience - that when you do have the child - there is no real difference for you what gender does it have! As for me the gender preference is a pretty.. ignorant thing. I mean - if to put this question in such a rude and awkward form - are boys better than girls? Are men better than women? Of course no.. Look around - and you are going to see that in the modern society both genders share the same rights and duties - both of them may occupy any positions on any kind of the social level.. As for me - there would be no difference for me , if I would have the boy or the girl.. We do have Shawn - our boy - and I am thankful to the God and the BioDads for this)
Ben, but why did you decide to do it, I mean - to name your daughter after her? So, if you would have the second child, what would be his/her name? As for me, i don't think that this is a good idea, I heard from some guys here that it is bad, that a child can repeat the fate of this person, don't you believe in this? Have you heard about this?
I agree with Miles as for the different between the gender. I do not see any of them. I don’t know why I love my baby girl so much that I preferred a daughter to son. Maybe it is somewhere in my head or my soul! I am also thankful to the BioDads agency that gave me chance to feel the power of biological parenthood. To tell the truth I didn’t name my daughter after somebody. I just liked the name and decided to name my daughter with the help of it. That is all. I heard that you should carefully choose the name for the child because it will define the fate and so on….but to tell the truth I don’t believe in this.
Interesting experience :) Never thought I am good enough to rise the child by my own though. Are you considering that you second half is actually somewhere waiting for you? Will you let another man or woman to join your family, if he will prove that he worth it?
Winston, so you think, that you won't be ready for this? What would you do in such situation, if you would like to have a child, but you won't have a boyfriend? Usually it scares a lot of guys, and yes, it is also difficult for me to imagine this... I am really proud of such guys!
Ramon - I do not really believe in that as well - I mean that the name of the child does really define something.. The name of my kid is Shawn, as i told - we named it after the father of my husband. But I knew many other people with that name.. not too many - two, actually - and one of them was not a really good person. but it does not really matter.. It is all about the upbringing. I can understand the temptation for the superstitions in this case - it is not only about the names.. but i do not like it. We all love our kids and want to do everything to guarantee a good life for them - but superstitions is not something that will help you in that)
Miles, maybe you are rihgt, maybe the most important is our love and care, and also our education. yes, we all want the best for our kids. But at the same time - I won't choose some names of my relatives for my children... I don't like them, to tell the truth, and my sisters already repeated them, so there would be a lot of relatives with the same names, and when you would call someone - practically all of them would turn their heads. It would be funny, don't you think so?
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