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Ramon
Last seen: 10 months 6 days ago
Joined: 10/27/2016 - 14:43
Experienced Father :)

More and more people sit on the net in search of useful information or in search of the solution to their problems. When you have some questions what do you usually do? Of course you try to find the answer on the net. You don’t call or go to relatives or friends and ask them if they know. There are questions that are too intimate to ask. So I also search for the necessary information on the net. The same was when I was going to become dad. You now I am a single man and I was fed up with all my negative experience in love. I decided that I want to become dad and I don’t need to wait for my second half. So nearly 11 months ago I paid the first payment to the gay surrogacy agency and now I hold my beautiful angel. I am the happiest man now on the planet because I have the person who needs me and who loves me and I am responsible for her. My little Susan is so little and looks like me…of course there were trifles like not so big apartment and sometimes strange food but you know the result I got is worth of it. I know for sure that I will never regret about what I have done and if I am worth of love my second half will find me and together it will be easier to take care of my little baby. Of course now I am alone and taking care of the child takes the whole my time. I foreseen that and gathered some sum of money. So we have everything. My parents help a lot. I took some kind of vocation from work and my baby receives much attention and care. If my story inspires someone I will be glad. If you need my help just ask! If I can I help as an experienced father already!

 

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Patrick
Last seen: 7 months 2 weeks ago
Joined: 10/18/2016 - 17:09
Hello Ramon! Dude, I don't

Hello Ramon! Dude, I don't know even what to say after such story... I know that it is very hard to have a child when you have a partner, but in your case it is more hard, more difficult, because all response, all material source is only on you. My friend, I am proud of such action, and think that your parents proud of you too, because they have educated, independent and i would say - even brave son! The hardest for you is in the past, and i am sure that you would find your couple) So, i have one question for you now - how long are you going to stay at home? As I know, not all kindergartens take such small babies, and not every babysitter can handle with your small daughter... Or you would take a help of your relatives?

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Patrick
Last seen: 7 months 2 weeks ago
Joined: 10/18/2016 - 17:09
And one more... You know, we

And one more... You know, we are only thinking about the baby withmy partner, only recently we told about our decision to our parents and some of our common friends, but some of them still don't know (those who don't have children), so we are looking now for agencies, want to have some choice, and we don't want to save money on this, because want to have everything best, so are you satisfied with your agency?

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Ramon
Last seen: 10 months 6 days ago
Joined: 10/27/2016 - 14:43
Oh, Patrick hello to you!!!

Oh, Patrick hello to you!!! Thank you for writing and supporting me!!! Yes it is really difficult to have little child and it is more difficult when you rise it alone but in any case I don’t regret about anything. Maybe I regret only about time that I lost while looking for my second half. As for my work…I took a vacation at work and my boss wasn’t against it…I explained the situation. Then for several months I agreed to have part time job and my parents will help when I will have to be at work. So don’t think it will be some kind of problem. Yes I am satisfied with my agency because now I have my little angel and what could be better?

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Patrick
Last seen: 7 months 2 weeks ago
Joined: 10/18/2016 - 17:09
Ramon, I am glad that you don

Ramon, I am glad that you don't afraid of such difficulties, I also glad that you have good parents, who are ready to support you, who understand you and your desire to be a father, and who help you so much. we all have to appreciate our parents I guess for such actions... Some guys on the other site believe that this is impossible - to raise your child alone... 

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Ben_R
Last seen: 7 months 2 weeks ago
Joined: 10/23/2016 - 13:36
Hello Ramon! This is a great

Hello Ramon! This is a great and inspiring story - for those who want to become single parents.. there were some topics on this forum - and some other ones. where people were discussing the possibility of becoming single parents. And I must confess - in all of those topics I did speak really negatively about the very idea of becoming a single parent by your own will.. i hope though that I was wrong in thinking that way - and I am glad that you are showing the example that it is possible. In any case - it is pretty funny as well - because my daughters name is Susan as well) So - are you searching for your second half now - or you already simply do not feel the need for it?

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Patrick
Last seen: 7 months 2 weeks ago
Joined: 10/18/2016 - 17:09
So, be, as i understood, you

So, Ben, as I understood, you changed your mind after this topic? Yes, it is easy to judge those, who don't have a couple, but wants to have a child, and i am glad that you don't have such problems, but have you ever imagined yourself in such situation? What would you do?

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Ben_R
Last seen: 7 months 2 weeks ago
Joined: 10/23/2016 - 13:36
Patrick, I would not say that

Patrick, I would not say that I was very severe on this. The thing is that I did not understand people who do have the wish to become single parents - not sue to some circumstances - but by their own free will. It always seemed to me that they are driven by reasons too selfish to be worthy of good parents. But, on the other hand - I can see the examples, when lonely fathers and mothers do raise great kids, great people, people , who are worthy to be called that name. the advise that I am giving in this case is simple - think twice, therefore this decision is not something you are going to bare with easily - and you will not have the right to regret it. That is my point)

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Patrick
Last seen: 7 months 2 weeks ago
Joined: 10/18/2016 - 17:09
Ben, why do you think that

Ben, why do you think that such people - selfish? They are selfish because want to take part in raising of the next generation? They are selfish because don't want to wait for their fate, for their couple, and want to feel the happiness of parenting? I thank god that i have a partner now, and you know, if I were alone - I would also use the surrogacy program no matter what!

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Ramon
Last seen: 10 months 6 days ago
Joined: 10/27/2016 - 14:43
Yes, I am a single gay parent

Yes, I am a single gay parent who became single father by my own will. Interesting? I think I did right and I have never regret about it. I am sure that every man should become father one day and if he hasn’t found his second half it doesn’t mean that he needs to wait for his second half and then think about children. I am currently not in search of my second half. I believe that if I should find him then he will definitely meet me unexpectedly. And he will not be against my little daughter. We will go into one more program and have two children – one my genetically related baby and the other – his one. 

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Patrick
Last seen: 7 months 2 weeks ago
Joined: 10/18/2016 - 17:09
Ramon, my friend, I see that

Ramon, my friend, I see that we have the same thoughts concerning parenting) Very glad for that) How old is your daughter? I hope that one day you would find your couple, your loving man, and you would share with him all happy moments of your life! I hope that you would have two kids, two small creatures) So, as I understood, if you will use the surrogacy program again, you would like to have a son?

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