An authoritarian parent has clear expectations and consequences, but shows little affection toward his or her child. The parent may say things like, "because I'm the daddy, that's why." This is a less effective form of parenting. A permissive parent shows lots of affection toward his or her child but provides little discipline. This is a less effective form of parenting.
The discipline techniques you choose may depend on the type of inappropriate behavior your child displays, your child's age, your child's temperament, and your parenting style. Acknowledging good behavior is the best way to encourage your child to continue it. In other words,"Catch him being good." Compliment your child when he or she shows the behavior you've been seeking.Your child does something wrong, and you let the child experience the result of that behavior. There's no need for you to "lecture." The child can't blame you for what happened. For example, if a child deliberately breaks a toy, he or she no longer has that toy to play with.
Natural consequences can work well when children don't seem to "hear" your warnings about the potential outcome of their behavior. Be sure, however, that any consequence they might experience isn't dangerous. Logical consequences. This technique is similar to natural consequences but involves describing to your child what the consequences will be for unacceptable behavior. The consequence is directly linked to the behavior. For example, you tell your child that if he doesn't pick up his toys, then those toys will be removed for a week.
Taking away privileges. Sometimes there isn't a logical or natural consequence for a bad behavior or you don't have time to think it through. In this case, the consequence for unacceptable behavior may be taking away a privilege. For example, if a middle schooler doesn't complete her homework on time, you may choose to take away television privileges for the evening. This discipline technique works best if the privilege is: Related in some way to the behavior, something the child values, taken away as soon as possible after the inappropriate behavior (especially for young children).
Time outs work if you know exactly what the child did wrong or if you need a break from the child's behavior. Be sure you have a time-out location established ahead of time. It should be a quiet, boring place probably not the bedroom (where the child can play) or a dangerous place like a bathroom. This discipline technique can work with children when the child is old enough to understand the purpose of a time out usually around age 2 and older, with about a minute of time out for each year of age. Time outs often work best with younger kids for whom the separation from the parent is truly seen as a deprivation.
Corporal punishment, such as spanking, isn't recommended. Primarily because nonphysical discipline techniques work better with fewer negative consequences.spanking may result in the following problems:
Spanking may make children more aggressive
Spanking can become more violent and harm a child
Spanking may cause children to think that it's OK to physically hurt someone you love
Whichever discipline techniques you choose to use, they can be more effective if you keep these ideas in mind.
Guide your discipline techniques to fit well with your child's temperament. The key to effective discipline is to understand who your child is, especially his temperamental style, and use your discipline to help him achieve his potential given those talents and tendencies. But your goal should not be to turn him into someone he is not for example, to turn a boisterous intense child into a mellow laid-back one.
Discipline techniques shouldn't come "out of the blue," especially if you're trying something new. To children who are old enough to understand, during a planned discussion not in the heat of the moment explain the technique, why you are using it, and what you hope it will accomplish. Older children may be included in choosing which rewards and consequences would be appropriate. Be respectful of your child. If you show your child respect even when disciplining your child your child is more likely to respect you, other family members, and other people in his or her life. If you "lose it" or overreact with disrespect, apologize. Behave the way you want your child to behave.
Any technique will fail if you don't follow through or enforce consequences consistently. If you say, for example, that toys will be off limits for a week, then take them away if the offending behavior continues. Don't break your discipline rules by giving in during public exhibitions of bad behavior, such as a child throwing a tantrum while shopping. If you give in to the child's demands, the tantrums will continue.
to my mind discipline is extremely important in the family because otherwise your child wont know what responsibility means. and then he wont be reliable and if he will have some difficulties in life he wont say you. discipline is not only important at home. children have to follow it in kindergarten, then in school and then they have to be disciplined and organised at the university, otherwise he will have really very big problems. so yo my mind it is better to start right from the childhood to grow up a disciplines child. try to make timetable, it helped us a lot.
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