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Tony
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It’s hard to deny the importance of discipline. Discipline has to do with civilizing your child so they can live in society. Yet kids repeatedly test their parents’ limits. When it comes to disciplining children, there is no quick fix and no magic bullet. If you, like many parents, have tried to discipline kids who don’t want to listen. What tips do you have concerning the theme? Do you think that discipline is importnant and what are the ways to reach needed discipline?

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Tony
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Reward good behavior. When punishment is the centerpiece of discipline, parents tend to overlook their children’s best behaviors. You’ll get a lot further with positive reinforcement than negative reinforcement. Rewarding good deeds targets behaviors you want to develop in your child, not things he shouldn’t be doing. This doesn’t mean you should give your child a pound of chocolate every time he picks up a paperclip. There are grades of positive reinforcemen. There’s saying ‘good job. I’m really glad you did that,’ when your child cleans his room. And there are times when your child does something extraordinary that may warrant a larger reward.

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Tony
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Be clear about rules. If your rules are vague, or discussed only when one has been broken, your child will have a hard time following them. It’s up to the parent to make clear what’s expected of the child and what isn’t. Be sure to explain the rules of the house when you can speak clearly and your child is not too upset to listen. it is suggested to practice discipline when it works for you. For instance, when you have 30 minutes to spare, interrupt your child’s game and tell her you need help with something. If she helps, great, do a quick and easy chore together and let her go back to her game. If she throws a tantrum, you have time to deal with it. If you do that every once in a while, your child will understand that when Daddy says I need to put my toys away, I need to do it.

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Neutralize arguments. How do you deal with a child who wants to argue into submission? Steer clear of no-win arguments. Instead, "go brain dead". For instance, if your child says, "This isn’t fair," say, "I know." If your child says, "All of my friends get to have this," say, "I know." Or you can use the phrase, "And what did I say?" to enforce rules you have already discussed with your child. Sometimes the less you say, the more clear your point becomes.

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Deniz
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Buy yourself time. You may have read that children need to experience the consequences of their actions as soon as possible. And maybe you’ve heard that parents should be calm as they discipline children. In reality, you may not be able keep your cool and react right away. Buy yourself time to calm down before you deal with the situation. You can tell your child, "Wow, bad decision. I need some time to figure out what I’m going to do about that." When your emotions are in check, express empathy for your child first, then deliver the consequences. Empathy gives your child room to connect his behavior to the outcome. You don’t have to get angry at kids, you don’t have to yell. Just allow it to become their problem.

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Andrew
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Be consistent about rules. Sometimes sticking to the rules is as challenging for parents as it is for kids. Sears sees too many parents turn the other cheek when their kids talk back or otherwise act out. Parents just are not consistent in enforcing rules. Not enforcing your own rules puts everything you say into question. If kids don’t know what to expect from their parents, they never really know what the rules are.

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Ien
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Model good behavior. Like it or not, your children are watching you. You can dole out as much advice as you want, but your personal conduct makes a more lasting impression than your words. The number one way human beings learn is through imitation and copy. If you want your child to be honest, make sure you practice honesty. If you want your child to be polite, let her see your best manners, at home and in public. The fact is, raising disciplined children is not easy. Despite your best efforts, there will always be good days and bad days. As a parent, you’re constantly pushing your own limits. It’s the toughest but the greatest job I’ve ever had.

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Alex
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You may want to back down for fear of ruining your child’s fun. Keep in mind that kids benefit from limits. Rules and structure give children the security of knowing their parents are watching out for them. As kids get older, you can take a more flexible approach. Around the ages of 9 and 12, kids should get a little leeway to test out the rules. But always be very careful about safety.

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Tony
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How can you provide discipline to your child so that he or she can function well at home and in public? Every parent wants their children to be happy, respectful, respected by others, and able to find their place in the world as well-behaved adults. Nobody wants to be accused of raising a spoiled brat. But sometimes it seems that these goals are miles away from your child's current behavior. Discipline is the process of teaching your child what type of behavior is acceptable and what type is not acceptable. In other words, discipline teaches a child to follow rules. Discipline may involve both punishment, such as a time out, and, more importantly, rewards. It sounds so straightforward, yet every parent becomes frustrated at one time or another with issues surrounding children and discipline.

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Tony
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Parents run up against several barriers when trying to teach good behavior to their children. How many of these have you experienced? Children who are disrespectful and don't listen: "I must have told you a thousand times!" Children who do listen, but defy or deliberately disobey your request for good behavior.

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Tony
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our responsibility as a parent is to help your child become self-reliant, respectful, and self-controlled. Relatives, schools, churches, therapists, health care professionals, and others can help. But the primary responsibility for discipline rests with parents.An authoritative parent has clear expectations and consequences and is affectionate toward his or her child. The authoritative parent allows for flexibility and collaborative problem solving with the child when dealing with behavioral challenges. This is the most effective form of parenting.

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