It is very serious situation. i think that every gay man was afraid to become the reason for blackmail threat. but the most awful is that everybody will see the sexual video with the participation of this poor guy. in my opinion, your friend should be foxier then his blackmailer and try to do something, because it is not an option to live and be in relationship with such a reptilian person. i can only imagin how it is difficult for your friend to understand that his nearest person did this.
your friend can find a person who will try to forge a bond with blackmailer and also catch on video their sex. i think that after this he will forget about your friend. I hope so.
i hate such situations. think maybe he plays with your friend and he will never show this video to somebody. it can be. i was in such situation and my blackmailer never show my sex photos. sometimes i think that he does not have them. because he said that he has my photos which i have never seen. he explain that he took photos when i did not see this. i said to him that he can do all what he wants with it. he was so angry but continued blackmail me. i just ignored him and you know nobody have never seen my sex photos. so i decided that he has nothing. and i keep calm. of course you can go to police and they can help you. but in most cases such blackmailers are fools and they can four flush.
Of course, to make a right decision in such a situation is very difficult, but it is possible. If I were on your friend's place, than I would tell the truth to my parents and friends before that guy could tell. I think that it is always better to hear the truth from you but not from the other, unknown person. Tell him not to affraid. I think that he'll manage to do it. Of course, the reaction og the family members and friends can be very different, but if they really love him, than they would understand.
I think only truth will stop this situationю Firstly, your friend has to talk to his parents. They have the right to know the truth. Maybe, they would understand everything and support him in this hard time. As for this guy, he has to show him that рe doesn't care whether he'll show these videos to anyone or not. If he convinces him that the fact that he's gay doesn't bother him any more, he would leave him. And, finally, I'm 100% that he should split with him forever.
P.S. If I were your friend, I would also call a police and tell them that someone is balcmailing me.
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