The good news is that the human body is programmed to procreate. Even men with their thin mental organization, able to overcome fears and complexes associated with the future of fatherhood. Instinct "be fruitful and multiply" is very strong! Whether it is worth to spend your precious time and nerves for advocacy and moral training for you and the spouse to have a child? I think yes. Psychologists say that missed in early childhood emotional contact with the child leads to difficulties in understanding between fathers and children in the future, to the lack of mutual affection and distrust. I think that we must be prepared to give a lot of attention to the child.
In recent decades in Europe and the United States began to talk about a "new model of fatherhood" which implies participation in the care of young children on a par with his partner. In these countries are popular school for future popes, whose students learn to care for the child, to find contact with them, communicate and play. I think that the preparation of the moral is very important for almost any future father. First of all, he must understand that he is now responsible for another family member. And if he does not understand all this, the situation in the family will become much worse. Therefore, the psychological preparation is really important.
You were sure you would not mind to become a father, but at that moment, when your partner went to you and, enigmatically smiling, hinted about the future replenishment, your heart began to beat faster. A child ... How is this exciting and at the same time scary. "What if it does not become a good father?", "Am I ready for this?" "Now what should I do?" And many other questions are swarming in my head a future father. But actually it's not so scary, because the birth and upbringing of a child is a natural part of life, and in every human being, even a man already genetically incorporated how to behave with the baby.
Prepare yourself mentally. The first thing to realize is that with the advent of the baby the usual mode of the day and the whole life changes dramatically. The first year of a child's life the most difficult for the newly-parents. Here and lack of sleep, and chronic fatigue, changeable mood spouses up to depression, quarrel against this backdrop - all this should be ready. Therefore, you should understand that you will meet a lot of different challenges in your way. But in any case, if you realize that your child is the best thing you can have in this world, you will deal with any problems along the way.
Give up bad habits! How long have you wanted to quit? Well, that is exactly the right moment. In addition to the harm to the child, your addiction could badly affect the state of your unborn child. The fact is, children are very sensitive to odors, and even if you smoke on the balcony or on the street, the smell from the clothes will still annoy your little heir. Also, if you really want to be a good father, you have to adjust many of your habits and your lifestyle to create the most comfortable conditions for the growth and development of your child. This is simply need if you want to be really good parent.
Get ready for changes in your sex life. Do not be surprised that when you are getting a child, you will have less time to do something personal, which is why the sexual life will be not as regular as before. Learn the skill of caring for infants. Reflexes reflexes, but learn to keep, swaddle, change diapers still need, and with education it is better not to pull, and buy all the books before the child's birth. So you'll feel more confident when the house will have the baby. All this is necessary especially for the first time for you. Just because you've got to take care of your child. And it's terrible when one partner leaves the whole care of the child on the shoulders of his other half.
Of course, training is very important, but you also have to think about you. Do not forget about your personal life. Preparing for the birth of a child is a big job, but people need to rest. In order to maintain a "weather house" must be periodically forget about all your worries and just spend time with your partner, because of how warm the relationship between the parents, depends the further well-being of the family. Get rid of jealousy. Some men, after the birth of a baby, experiencing a strange feeling akin to jealousy. Men in this case, start to feel strangers, but it is not so and that is why you need to listen to the following advice.
You must learn to spend time alone with your child. The image of the father accompanies man throughout his life, to have the child remain fond memories of you, sometimes you need to get out of the house and spend time alone together with a toddler. You will have your secrets and funny stories, so you will contribute to the participation of his upbringing. The birth of a child - always a holiday, this is the lightest event that can happen in the life of a loving couple. It is important to understand that the relationship with the child are added at a very early stage, so you need from birth to establish an emotional connection with him.
In a child's life, from the first days of development in the womb, all affected his psychological and physical health. To learn how to affect the psychology of the mother will be discussed in another article. In addition, the child affects pope. At present, training and family planning has been a lot of steam. It has become popular in a responsible approach to future parenthood. As for fathers, they are less prone to sentimentality, but this does not mean that they do not know how to feel and love. Men are afraid of changes in the family, afraid of losing their freedom, a good relationship in the couple fear that they will no longer be time for fun, and the whole life becomes a continuous diapers and cries at night.
Start preparing for fatherhood in advance. At the start to monitor your health for years to have a child: food, sport, give up bad habits and stress. Take the survey at the urologist. They are prompt, you need to treat, and perhaps just drink vitamins. As for the psychological preparation: Talk more about the children, about what is happiness for you both. Ask friends or family members who already have children, so they are more described how their lives have changed for the better with the advent of the child. A man must understand and feel how his life will change with the advent of the son or daughter.
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