I also think that there is nothing more important than our children in this world. So you just have to decide how some issue with your work. Maybe you have the opportunity to take a vacation, or something else. But you need to be with your child at least for a while. In addition, when your child will become an adult, you should always listen to it completely. When the child wants to say something to you, listen to it carefully. Instead of trying to listen to half an ear, turn to it, leave everything and listen carefully! Do not pretend to listen, and listen to it. When we listen to our children, it shows our attention first of all.
I think that each of us always has the ability to come up with something with his work, when we get the question of the child. I also want to give you a little advice for the near future. Always reset the drive on vacation with the whole family. Many people want a break from the family on vacation. Yes, there is some logic in this. But! Rest of all, ie, spend time alone with him regularly. To do this, the rule in your home twice a week for 1-2 hours to release your husband from all the worries and also supplied themselves. Spend twice a week with a time and for themselves. Take a walk, go with a friend in a cafe, go shopping, to the swimming pool, etc. A vacation spend with your family.
The most common cause of bad behavior is the struggle for the attention of parents. Once the child begins to behave badly, parents are immediately diverted from its important and necessary things and rush to raise their child. If the child does not receive the right amount of attention, the only way to earn the attention he sees in disobedience. The baby needs your attention as much as eating or sleeping. This is a normal requirement that he just needed for normal growth and development. Therefore, if you spend more time for your work, and your child will not have such a high value to you, you will receive a child with bad behavior who hates you completely.
To be honest, it's hard for me to believe that you once you compare your child to work. I think it's quite silly. Of course I do not want to offend someone or say something bad. But in any case I think that if your partner is also working, you can temporarily take a vacation. Or you can even leave your job to find something else after a while, when your baby will get a little older. I think that children are the most important thing in our life. Just when you think about your job more than about your future child, maybe you just have to have him? Maybe I'm too rough now ... But I think you should change your attitude to such things.
You know, it is the surprising theme for me and to tell the truth, I was highly surprised to hear that you have put this on the topic. In my personal point of view, that is the commonly seen problem in the modern society and of course, if to speak about the possibility of having the best time with the baby, the proper amount of the one along with the child, it is hard to find the leisure time when you are working literally all the time... Ir appears that you are losing the priceless minutes with the baby and of course, it also happens that you are actually not the best father! how painful it has to be, yeah? I hope I will resign before the whole thing.
Read "French children do not spit food" by Pamela Druckerman.
There it is written a lot that a child from childhood should learn to wait, learn to entertain himself, learn to be disappointed, and so on. If there is a desire and time - read! Written very easily, read in one breath. To this I was pushed by the situation of my sister. With the second child, she almost always spent time together. They live in another city, grandmothers and friends there is not there and the child is born with her only with her. At 5 months for him it was unbearable. He is constantly on his hands, without hands the child was shouting, in the hands of his grandmother the child was shouting. Mom in the field of vision is the only thing that was required. The trip to the toilet for her had to be planned in advance, distracting the child. The situation became easier for a year and a half of the child, when he began to be interested in something more than his mother.
children are very responsible topic in our lives. You should understand, that you are response to a little human. You should give him education, health, good life. Before getting a baby, you should think about it. As for attention to a child, of course children need it. On our attention depends child's existing in the world. If you give not so many attention, child will think, that nobody loves him. Attention is very important, i think
I'm glad to see everyone. I agree with you that our children are our future, this is our hope for the best. I did not pay much attention to my child with my constant work and work in the outside, but still if I had free time, I spent it not for rest, as some fathers are doing now, but for my son, and at this time I listened attentively to him, he did what and how, taught and was attentive, and did not sit in the phone or computer and only assent him in everything. Now it can be found in almost all families. It is sad. Spend time for the child, he will quickly grow up, but will remember that time spent with the father and appreciate it.
I think that parents are the closest to our people; their behavior and attitude towards us leaves its mark on life. However, often for work and personal problems they spend too much time, which loses the child.
Is he not worthy of attention that you pay to read, talk on the phone, sitting at the computer and in front of TV? Because your baby is special! In addition, I also think that the nanny can not be a really good option for you just because your child will get used to see her all his life. I think that the time may come when your child will think that your nanny is his mom or dad. So I think it's better to leave your job for a couple of years at least.
You know for children, the most important and valuable it is to be loved. Plants reach for the sun to live. Also, our children, are drawn to those who sincerely loves them and appreciates.
So if you're not in words, but in reality they show their love, devotion, warmth and care, they will never commit an act that may disappoint you. And taking a great solution for them, they will first consult with you and not with your friends. I do not mean that to give enough love for your child, you must be all your time alone with him, but you should always be there when your child needs you. With your work it can be difficult.
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