You have time for self-care and for other relationships. I love spending time alone with my husband, and we have a lot of this due to not being busy raising a family. I also enjoy nurturing my terriers, and for me the time and energy this takes meets my personal caretaking needs. It’s also great to have the ability to carve out time to write letters, make phone calls, or meet with friends socially. You can dedicate your time to your career or to other interests that will help the world as a whole. Let’s face it, parenting takes a lot of time; time experts say that it takes eight hours a day to raise two children to the age of 18. :silly:
I’m amazed at how people, especially women with children, can manage a fulltime job on top of parenting. They often appear to be exhausted and less than enthusiastic about being at work, and it’s apparent that they’re spread too thin. The world will be less crowded and resources less depleted. Think about a future with fewer mouths to feed and the possibility that we might restore diminishing natural resources such as life in the sea and fresh water. I am hearing more and more young people these day say that parenting is not a given, and I’m hopeful that only those who truly want to be parents will become moms and dads. :lol: :silly: :blink:
You will be a misfit among your peer group. There have been many occasions when I looked around the room and realized that I was the only one who didn’t have kids. This can be a real problem when I’m with women friends, as they tends to always want to talk about their children; now that I’m entering my fifties, some friends are talking about grandchildren. One in five women who have reached the end of their childbearing years is not a mother—that means that four out of five are! You will miss out of what many consider to be a crucial life role. I’ve missed an entire chapter of life that is considered by many to be essential. :P
Sometimes I feel out of step, especially when I’m ahead in many ways such as saving for the future and building a career. Many women are just, at my age, returning to work after years of part-time employment or none at all. You won’t have anyone to take care of you in your old age. I live far from my parents, but we talk at least weekly by phone and they know that they can count on me if need be. Not having kids, I’m aware of how critical it is for me to be making plans for my future, whether this is putting my wishes down in writing or saving up to be able to pay for the help I’ll need. :silly: :silly:
Many couples find themselves trying to decide whether or not to have children. When speaking to couples that have children most will hear “It’s hard, but it’s worth it.” Derry-Williams, director of research for Northwest Environmental Watch says, “In the short term, if you look at the dollar value you lose, it can be substantial — but at the same time, it’s like an ongoing, lifelong investment in happiness.” Having children turns a couple into a family. You learn to be unselfish. Being a parent is a twenty-four hour job. You are at the beck and call of another person that you are responsible for. Because of this being a parent requires that you put the needs of your child before your own. B) :)
Children enrich your life. Children approach the world with such wonder. Everything is new to them. Children allow you to experience some of that wonder. “Though dads [and moms] may initially moan about the loss of freedom that parenthood brings, most ultimately find that being a [parent] gives them a richer and fuller life. Raising kids forces [parents] to look beyond themselves, which is very good for their mental well-being,” Waite says, coauthor of The Case for Marriage: Why Married People Are Happier, Healthier and Better Off Financially. Children are the world’s best teachers. I have an education degree and consequently took many child development, discipline, and education classes. :ohmy:
Being a parent improves your health. Parents are more likely to take care of themselves health wise, because they realize that they are responsible for the care of another individual. “Fatherhood comes with a lot of great health perks, ” says Marcus Goldman, M.D., author of The Joy of Fatherhood: The First Twelve Months. “Not only does it inspire men to take better care of themselves physically, but it also fills them with a sense of purpose that genuinely enhances their psychological well-being.” You learn about yourself. Being a parent has taught me more about myself than anything else. It has increased my patience and love. :kiss:
Having children increases your self-esteem. There is nothing quite like having your child look up at you and say, “You’re the best mom in the whole world,” or “Daddy, I want to be just like you when I grow up.” Dr. Gold man says, “To be an integral part of your child’s life, you may have to give up a few things that once seemed important. But once a man makes that commitment to his family, there are enormous rewards: You see the positive effect you have on your kids, and that, in turn, affects how you feel about yourself and your success as a parent–and as a person.” You get to be a kid again. Having children allows you to do childish things. :woohoo: :side:
You don’t see many childless couples going to Disneyland or playing at the park. Because these are activities that parents and children do. You can watch your favorite cartoons, play games, and throw around a ball with your child. Parents laugh more. I’m not talking about the polite laugh that you give after someone tells a joke but the genuine laughter that comes from being a parent. Kids are funny. They are constantly doing things that are humorous and as parents we get to enjoy those moments. Children equal love. It is a proven fact that when you serve someone you grow to love them. Having children means that you experience more love in your life. :blush: :silly:
For me children are very important and not only because they will remain after me bringing a part of me (I don't mean only biological part of me, the code of my genes. If a child is not biologically mine, adopted, this child also carries a part of me, a part of my soul which I gave him\her loving him\her and caring about him\her) to his\her children and to the further generations. Children are important because they bring us reason to live, they bring sense to our life and they love us unconditionally, just because we exist, whether we are fat or thin, rich or poor, famous or unknown
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