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Cuty
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Are children important?

I could understand why people don't want to have children. There could be cultural, medical or personal issues involved. It's a huge responsibility, raising a child. Maybe the responsibility deters one from producing. The population of Earth continues to grow. However, (god forbid me from saying this) nature tends to weed out the population whether through war, disease, famine and etc. It's a circle of life. They say every 50 years, a substantial amount of people die. Just nobody notices... It's not for me to judge if a person wants to have children or not. However, life must be pretty lonely even with a spouse. :) :)

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Nombelio
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Life is in no way lonely without family. I lived with my family up until I turned 18 (which was, like, a month ago), and now I live with my friends. I have lived in a bunch of different places, seperated from my mom and dad (who are divorced), like when I lived at my grandparents, and living away from all of them now, I don't miss any of them, at all. The only people I see in my family now and then are my brothers, and their just like my friends. I might think this way 'cause the majority of the people on my dad's side of the family are asses, and my mom's are just weird as shit. As for being greedy if you do not have kids I could not disagree more. :dry:

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Cuty
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I remember my dad saying I need to have kids for lagacies sake, and he said I'm pretty much saying "fuck you all" to my ancestors by not having kids. Well, if they think I should have kids no matter what kind of life I want to lead, and no matter what my own stance on kids is, then I AM saying fuck you all. I do not see at all what importance legacy and family name hold other than in a who's balls are bigger contest (not litterally). I'm not at all proposing that everyone stop having kids, just to recognize that it is COMPLETELY optional. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. I understand why you feel that way. :S

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Cuty
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I remember when my parents used to leave me for months at a time when they went overseas. I used to feel so lonely because I was but a child. My siblings are older than me like thirteen years apart. It felt like I had nothing in common with them. As I get older, I'm growing closer to them. I bet you are a generous guy. In my area, the rich families tend to not have children. I think there's a little correlation with that theory. Having kids is optional. However, when you get married don't think twice you're wife will ask you for children. Unless..you want to be single.. So it should be a choice for each of us. :roll:

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Leif
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well, I'm of the belief that having and raising children is the meaning of life, but it's not as if you've failed by not doing so. It's obviously stupid to say that you're doing anything malicious by avoiding it, but you should never impose its importance or idiocy on anyone else... but simply do what you want. My dad works with this really really hardcore feminist who basically thinks that women who have babies are selling out. There's the voice of the alternate idiotic viewpoint not seen here. Let's see what's made of that. This though, is the silly side of things. There's such a thing as epidurals(1/10 go wrong, but who could resist the idea of doing your nails while squeezing a person out of them?), and to be held back by this is to compromise the experience of raising a child to avoid a couple of hours of searing pain. :cheer:

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Ioan
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Don't "knock it before you try it" is the WORST excuse for anything, ever, seriously, just think about that. You do not at all have to experience everything first hand over and over again to wrap your mind around it. For the case of having kids, we are taught (at least in my schools) insane amounts of info about parenthood, not to mention WE WERE ALL KIDS ONCE. I for one remember a shit load of my childhood and how my mom and dad acted. I've been around a few other families as they raise they're babies and talked endlessly about parenthood. I live in a foster home right now, and I've see a LOT of kids go through here man, aging VERY young. Of all my friends, I think I'm the only one responcible enough to actually raise a kid right now, and I'm the one who never wants too! :woohoo:

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Tad
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I decided not to have children. When I was young, my family was full of tension and anger, and then I noticed that many others were too. Such a family life was in no way attractive. When older, often I saw parents rebuke their children for playing with me, or even in my vicinity, assuming it would bother me — without waiting to see if I objected. Rebuking those children had become an ingrained, automatic habit. To see this made me sad for them, but I knew I would be the same as a parent. I would not be able to cope with a frequently crying baby without becoming upset and angry. Of course, many people tell themselves, "That happens to others, but I am better than they; I will get it right. :whistle: :whistle:

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Crouly
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Almost everyone is a parent, and if you like to feel like you’re part of the mainstream, then parenting is for you. Not being a parent when in your 20s, 30s, and 40s can mean spending a lot of time alone, as your peers are getting together for play-dates with their children. Even when the little ones are not around, the conversation is likely to be about what the children are doing. You have something to focus on other than yourself. Self-focus is uncomfortable for many people, and frankly, having a child immediately puts the emphasis on this dependent being. Having a child means that you’ll have at least eighteen years of endless focus on the needs of another being. :woohoo: :kiss:

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Drew
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You’re never bored. For a person who has trouble filling his or her time, having a child might be the answer. You simply won’t have time to be bored, because once you spend eight hours on childrearing tasks you’ll be so tired that you’ll be ready for bed. You have limited time and energy for your own pursuits. Many parents are spread way too thin, and they suffer by missing sleep, not having time for exercise, and having neglected marriages that end in divorce. And that’s not to mention the hobbies that one might wish to pursue such as art, travel, writing, or golf, and to not have to wait until the golden retirement years to do so. :P :woohoo:

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Cuty
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You have to worry about a child who is dependent on you. I’m hearing more and more stories about adult children who are still living at home or have returned home after college. Many of these kids appear to be quite immature and not only financially, but also emotionally dependent on mommy and daddy. Parents these days seem to have trouble cutting the old apron strings. You have to make life decisions based on what’s best for someone else, rather than what’s best for yourself. When you become a parent, you ideally put your own selfish desires behind those of your child. This is all well and good, but what if it means passing up a job opportunity in another city, staying in a dead marriage, or neglecting old friendships? :kiss:

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