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Cuty
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Are children important?

I thought a lot about the importance of children in our lives. Of course, we have to live by the laws of nature. In addition, each family must have children because children are born, grow up, and we get old and eventually, death takes us. Children continue to live and they are our heirs. If we do not have children, we are just going to die. And the memory of us will die as quickly. So perhaps the kids are really important in our lives. But I do not want to have children. I got this problem thanks to my partner because he really wants to have a child. I understand that he is very serious about me. But I can not imagine how I would take care of the child. So, is it important for each of us? Do I have to agree with my partner? :unsure:

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Cuty
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Having children brings an increased sense of meaning into people’s lives, according to the Prime Minister’s national happiness survey. The latest measure of the country’s well-being yesterday revealed that having children does not necessarily make people happier or more satisfied with their lot. But it does make them feel they have more of a reason for living. The researchers also acknowledged for the first time that their figures show that married people are happier than everyone else, and that the most miserable are those who are divorced or separated. The Measuring National Well-Being Programme report said: ‘Although the presence of children does not alter overall life satisfaction or improve day-to-day emotions, it may bring an increased sense of meaning and purpose to people’s lives.’ :blink:

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Henk
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The happiness survey is being conducted by the Office for National Statistics on the orders of David Cameron, who thinks it is important to know what matters to voters beyond what can be measured by economic statistics. The £2million-a-year exercise, primarily based on four questions about people’s sense of well-being, has been widely condemned by critics as futile and pointless. The report also said: ‘People who are married or in civil partnerships reported the highest average levels of life satisfaction, significantly higher than cohabiting couples. ‘The lowest average rating was reported by people who are divorced or separated, including those who have dissolved civil partnerships.’ :whistle: :whistle:

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Kris
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There are many good reasons to have kids. Beer-fetchers. Garden-mowers. They support you in old age. They are a legitimate excuse to watch cartoons. They provide an object to be named humourously. But the most important reason is more subtle. Lets start with Nazi concentration camps. Viktor Frankl, a psycho-analyst, survived 5 years in WWII camps. He watched many people die, go crazy and lose their principles. He observed men give up on life and die. He took notes. His conclusion: The only survivors of the camps were those that had some greater purpose. Some unfinished business. In other words, only he who was living for something other than himself survived. :lol:

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Dasty
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This is the key to meaning in life. Living for something other than yourself. Ask not what the world can do for you, ask what you can do for the world. That’s why kids are important. It is very difficult to ignore the primal instinct to do everything you can to look after your kids. To protect them from the world. To help get as far ahead in life as possible. Kids make you unselfish. They give you purpose. They suck you out of the natural tendency to do everything for yourself. And purpose is the answer to happiness and long life. Some people already have purpose. But many people don’t… many people are searching… and when children come the search is ended. :side: :side:

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Cuty
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I find that most couples with fertility problems care for each other very much - perhaps too much. For example, Bryan W. said in a private interview, "I really don't care that much about having a baby. But I want one for Debbie's sake." When I interviewed Debbie, she said, "I'm afraid Bryan will divorce me and find a woman who can bear his children." In this case each misinterpreted the other's desires and was more concerned about the other's needs than his or her own. Their lack of communication and understanding added to their stress and hampered their choice of a mutually satisfying treatment program. B)

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Johny
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Marriages actually do survive without children. In fact, population statistics indicate that marriages sometimes become less stable when children are introduced The highest incidence of divorce occurs soon after the birth of the first child. I don't state this to frighten you, but to offer you some perspective. Children may add stress to a relationship because of their demands and impact on the couplets life-style. Moreover, the birth of a child will not stabilize an already rocky relationship. As with Michael and Shelley, the foundation of your marriage may be stronger than you think. Knowing this will help you cope with your treatment and with your fertility in less emotional and distressing terms. :unsure:

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Cuty
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Our society tends to praise and value the traditional family and frown on a childfree life-style. In reality, however, life-style needs are as valid a concern as any basic biological need. For some the arrival of a baby makes life complete. For others the rewards of parenting will never be as satisfying as the lives they led before having a baby: lives of spontaneity, of freedom, of personal control. However, few couples with fertility problems pause to ask themselves if they really want a baby or a pregnancy. A baby changes your life as much as or more than marriage itself. Baby will interrupt your sleep, your schedule, your private time, and your lovemaking. :kiss: :kiss:

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Cuty
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For most infertile couples the prospect of altering their lives to include a baby is a joyful goal. Planning will help smooth out the uncertainties during fertility treatment and after the new arrival. Statements 21 through 38 will help you decide if you are ready to bring a baby into your life—to settle down into a different life-style—and if you are financially able to support a new family member. By comparing your answers, you'll discover whether both of you share the same life-style needs. Compare your answers with your spouse's. Explore how your fertility treatment will affect your life-style. How will it affect your career? Your finances? Your travel? Are you willing to adjust these aspects of your life for a prolonged period of treatment? And if your fertility treatment is successful, how will the baby fit into your life? :cheer:

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Chaki
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I do not know of many institutions that do promote NOT having kids sometime in your life. Only if there is a problem with you, does anyone suggest not having kids. My dad reminds me every time I see him (at least it seems like it) that I should 'carry on our name' and 'do my part'. But where's the sence in doing my 'part', I don't see what we're trying to accomplish here. Personally, I do not think it is important at all to have kids. Sure it's great for society and all to have kids so that the human way of life continues, but I do not live my life for the advancement of a future society I'll never see. :pinch: more.

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Cuty
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Some couples have a hard time producing children and seeing that breaks my heart. I babysit part-time and I'm always surrounded by children.I will be bias due to my experience. Don't get me wrong. I won't be thinking about kids for sometime. In the future, I do want to have some. Maybe it's different in my culture but having children is a duty to your family and people. I kind of understand why. It's to pass down our culture, genetics, etc. Is man not suppose to procreate to pass this information? My parents both come from large families. I guess its because of their experience growing up; they want to have many grandchildren. :angry:

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