The most effective way to ask for forgiveness all know from an early age, when we just approached the parents to take offense at us and said: "Excuse me." Having said this word, you simply makes it clear that realize their mistakes. Of course, you have to listen to reproaches, and perhaps many of them will be fair, and, therefore, it is useful to make clear that you are aware of the depth of the fault and its ready "to atone." If you belong to the category of people who generally can not forgive forgiveness, then your position is not easy, because you experience everything in yourself and get a double punishment. The easiest way to those who, without delving into the problem can apologize a hundred times in a row.
If you hurt your loved one, you probably often think about how to return all back and do differently. Unfortunately, we can not turn back time and fix it. What's done is done, and you both have to live with those consequences. Now we have to think how to ask for forgiveness and restore relations. As strange as it sounds, you must first forgive yourself, stop yourself criticize and condemn. Otherwise, you will constantly think back to the past, rather than take concrete steps to remedy the situation. All ever make bad decisions, commit such acts, which later regret. But it makes no sense to get stuck in the past and become discouraged, we must move forward.
The faster you forgive yourself and decide to be constructive, the sooner you will be able to do the following steps: to take responsibility and apologize. Forgiveness - is an integral part of the relationship. Without forgiveness, you can not create a happy relationship or restore destroyed. In life, there can be such situation when one "Excuse me!" Or "I'm sorry!" Is not enough, if a loved one does not hear your apology. It seems that you have pleaded guilty and asked for forgiveness, but feel that your apology was not accepted. We must sincerely apologize for all that we have done for our beloved ones when necessary.
It's great to have in their lives of loved ones. Knowing that there are friends and family who care about who will always be able to support in difficult times, people have a sense of security and necessity. But, as often happens, the most dear people we offend more often than others. Where we can help it in front of strangers, in the presence of relatives is not always successful. We hope that they will understand us and forgive. This is true, but it is very important to learn to apologize. Squeeze out: "I'm sorry" is very difficult. If you do nothing and leave everything as is, the tensions will grow. Thinking that with time things will get better by itself is wrong, because it is an indicator of immaturity.
Pride and selfishness can be a hindrance to reconciliation. It makes you think of human pride: "Why would I? He, too, is wrong. " Everyone is waiting for the first step from the other, and resentment may grow into hatred. To break this vicious circle, it is necessary to calm down and analyze what you did wrong and how you can rectify the situation. This will help such a quality as humility. It is now out of fashion? Yes, a lot of people think so, but we are talking about relationships with loved ones. The majority opinion should not affect your decisions. To recognize the wrongfulness is not a shame, family and friends will appreciate it.
Education also plays a significant role. If as a child you have not heard from the father and mother of the word "sorry", then it will be given to you with difficulty. There need to be aware of this fact and work on yourself. Try it once "stepped" over and apologize, you will feel a lightness in my soul and in relationships. Next time ask for forgiveness should not be difficult. Come up with an apology in verse, it will help to smooth the voltage. In any case, we must learn to ask for forgiveness. Because from time to time it may completely change our immediate future in relations with the beloved. Sometimes it is enough to ask for forgiveness in order to save your relationship.
The right infusion. How it is needed. Most people think, "If I ask for forgiveness, I will give to understand that blame and show its weakness." This view is erroneous. Agree, in a quarrel involving at least two. Would you say that is not said too much or his icy silence did not show contempt? You know that there is a percentage of your fault. I think that at times we just do not see the bad things we have done well. And from time to time, we just do not feel our own fault, but we expect that someone will apologize to us. We must remember that we should treat our beloved the way we want attitude toward us.
Before apologize important to consider some points. Otherwise you can commit follies, with best intentions. Find out the relationship, when you are angry is not worth it. Wait until you both cool. The notes of sarcasm are inappropriate, even if you are sure they are right. An expression such as: "I'm sorry, I do not think you do not understand jokes," can be perceived as a mockery. If you are sincere about it will tell your mind and your tone of voice. Even if the offense unfounded, recognize that you could hurt feelings. A sincere apology removes the wall, which is built by man wronged. Destroy this wall and you will notice that the guy does not take a defensive stance, peace has been restored.
What you seem funny joke, for others it will be an insult. You do not need to beg the feelings of another or something to make fun of them. If your family opened teasing each other and nobody is offended, it does not mean that, and for others it is the norm. Does not require that you adapt and understand your jokes. Over time, this may be, but is apologize and do not let go of comic ridicule against the other. If you want to apologize to your lover - you must take into account all aspects that may affect the overall situation. Also, I really believe that to ask forgiveness - much better than silence and resentment.
Apology is an art, but it does have key steps. The first is to plead guilty. The second is to explain why you did it. The third is to Express remorse. The fourth is to offer to repair the damage (it is appropriate to offer to adjust the car mirror, if you caught them in the Parking lot I was standing next to the car, and is unlikely to help if you slept with his wife's best friend). The fifth is to listen to the victim. :)
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