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John
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Age difference

I understand that love has no age and we can fall in love either with much younger or with much older person, because our life is unpredictable and our heart doesn't look at age. But still, is it acceptable for you to date with much older or much younger than you? Can such person attract you? Or public opinion and stereotypes play important role for you in choosing a partner? Share your thoughts.

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AdamL
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As for me too big age difference is totally unacceptable. No one will ever convince me that two people really love each other when one is 20 and another one is 40 or even 50. They were born in different centuries, they were brought up in different ways, they have different tastes, values and priorities, they have absolutely nothing in common. So, such relationships are never based on real feeling.

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Louis
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Let me disagree. there are lots of examples of couples which live long and happy life together despite age difference. Age is a very formal criteria, it tells nothing about a person, it does not reflect any aspect of personality. And nobody looks in a passport to know how old the person is to make a conclusion whether to build further relationships or not. And nobody will ever say " You are too old, we break up".

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AdamL
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I am talking not about those cases when age difference is invisible (10 years and less), nobody tells to count age difference by days or to look at person's passport. I am talking about that cases when two people look strange together like one of them is a father or even a grandfather of another one. It is not acceptable and it cannot be love. Father instinct, financial dependence, but not love.

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Louis
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Why can't it be love? Because they look not like other couples? And does love depend somehow on the way people look together? I don't think that love is about only looking good together, it is something much deeper and much more serious. It is something two people feel to each other deep inside their souls. and it does not matter for them how they look for the rest of the world/

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AdamL
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I am not talking about the way two people look in other people's eyes (but most of us already suffer from negative opinions of other people about our points of view on who to love. We all understand how hard it may be to cope with judging and gossiping, with misunderstanding and avoiding. If there will be an age difference, it will make a situation twice much harder and not everybody is ready for it)

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Louis
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You are right in that, that there are lots of negative opinions thoughts and words about us in society. But if we paid attention to every wrong sight or wrong word said to us, we would all have gone mads already, because there can never be enough nerves to take it all. So the only thing we can do is live our lives the way we want, do what we want to do and love who we want to love

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AdamL
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I agree with you in that point that we should choose how to live and who to love by ourselves without taking people's opinion too close to our hearts. But in case of age difference there is usually a mental difference too. While people who are 20 want only to have fun and to enjoy the life in all possible ways, people who are over 30 concentrate their minds on something much more serious.

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Louis
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The difference of priorities between two people really can make their further relationships perspectiveless . But the difference of priorities is not necessarily a consequence of age difference. A 20-year-old guy may be much more self-confident and much more independent, much smarter and much more serious than another guy at the age of 40 or even 50.It does not depend on age.

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AdamL
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It does depend on age. Because the older a person is, the more experience this person has behind himself and the better this person understands those aspects of life which are not understandable for younger people yet. Young people often live oner moment while older people look further and make long-term plans. They have different points of view on life and it is hard for them to build common future.

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John
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if i love the person and i am satisfied with him for 100 per cent then what is the problem? i don't care about the thoughts and opinion of other people iespecially if something concerns my private life.

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